Hi,
I wrote this as a roleplay ad for r/dirtypenpals, but it contains a story that is too long for most people there. Since it is around the size of a mid-short story for the standards here, I will paste it here. I will leave the rest of the ad (which is about roleplaying), but if you just want to read the story, scroll down to the section “Base Story”. It is written in a dry style, with some inlined prompts for the reader and without a lot of detail, as I meant it as a base for roleplaying specific scenes, but it is still self-contained fiction and the ideas in it may still be interesting for some people here.
# Introduction
I would like to roleplay a story about a submissive girlfriend in the sense of accepting sexism and being absolutely devoted to the satisfaction of the man in a selfless way, like an “active doormat”. This means that she is not a horny sub and she doesn’t really expect pleasure or satisfaction for herself, but she does everything out of sheer love and devotion.
I like eroticism and realistic fetish over genital interaction. I like a focus on things like beauty discipline, feminine and pretty but uncomfortable attire, sexist body standards, requirement for being constantly dolled up, feminine stewardess-like demeanor, stepford wife aesthetics and behaviour, 24/7 submissiveness in daily life and not just in the bedroom, arm-candy role, and other elements of a truly male-led relationship (not bare porn, not mere BDSM games, no politically correct rationalizations of 24/7 lifestyle).
I usually find it problematic when characters played by different people already know each other a lot (like a pre-existing couple) because when one plays with detail and nuance, the meaning of each action depends on the previous history between the characters, and synching about all their previous relationship in sufficient detail would require a quite large amount of brainstorming between the players. In order to address this issue, I include in this ad a “base story” describing their relationship from the beginning, which is meant to provide a base for said context.
If you are interested in playing this story with me, do the following steps.
– Read the base story.
– Copy and paste it in a Google docs document. If you don’t like Google Docs it can be something similar that allows collaborative sharing and edits to be highlighted.
– Make any changes or additions you want using change tracking, so I can find the changes more easily. You are free to change anything you like in a different way; my initial version is just one option among many, and it is important for me that the resulting story fits your tastes. People play best what they genuinely like.
– I mark with double square brackets the parts where I explicitly ask you to express your preferences about something.
– Please, highlight in green the paragraphs that describe events that you want to roleplay (either parts written by me or modified or added by you). Please take into account that I like to roleplay in detail, so a single scene of just a couple of in-story hours can take quite a few RL hours to play. Also take into account that when we play a story, the context so far is what has happened before, not afterwards. This allows us to play scenes in different stages of their relationship. I like to play scenes where at least something is new. This means that some things may already be a routine for them, but there is also something new that has not happened before. If you want to play more than one scene, I prefer to play them in chronological order (the order in your modified base story).
– Read also Section 1 in the pinned post in my profile, which describes the basics about how I roleplay. The rest of the sections are good to read but not required.
– Then you can contact me with a PM, including a link to the customized base story. Please also include your timezone and approximate RL age. I have found that the approximate age of a roleplayer is relevant for nuanced stories because it affects which cultural references he is acquainted with.
# Base Story
They met in October 2017. She was 19 and she worked as a clerk in a bookstore. She was very sweet and polite but clearly a shy girl. He was charming with her, pushy but not looking desperate, confident without looking like a fool, and at the end, he gave her his number instead of asking for hers. She managed to overcome her shyness and she called him the next day and they met for a date.
[[Introduce here basic info for your character: age, occupation, hobbies, etc. He should be at least a bit older but how much is up to you. Economically, he should at least have his own place, but don’t make him a stereotyped super-CEO. Also, specify in which city or area would you like it to take place.]]
### First and second date
During the first date, he chose the movie to see, where they would have dinner and what she would eat, and she was too shy and insecure to suggest otherwise. She thanked him when he paid the tab.
He started taking all the decisions. He asked for her opinion sometimes but after that he made himself the decision, which may fit her opinion or not, and he did not ask whether it was okay with her. She followed his decisions, wanting him to like her and not see her as troublesome. He cracked sexist jokes from time to time and she tagged along laughing so he would see her as fun. She said that she was not one of these annoying feminists without a sense of humor, and when he made more explicit remarks about how he dislikes feminism, she doubled down on her self identification as non-feminist, even copying and extending his sexist remarks and quips, complaining about how annoying women are, and humbly implying that even though she carries these defects too she at least does her best to correct them.
Being so shy and insecure, she had never been with a guy before. She quickly fell in love with him and her actions were clearly aimed at being liked by him over other girls.
[[About her looks, we can discuss them in private but overall there are two options. She can be objectively a 9/10 but insecure enough to feel like a 7/10, which means that she will not feel very unattractive but not very attractive either. Another option is that she is objectively a 7/10 and she feels like a 5/10, which means that she is moderately attractive but she feels like she is physically mediocre, and this can make it possible for him to pepper some praising remarks with some other negative or underhand remarks about her looks that may hit her right in her insecurities, widening them and increasing her feeling that in order to make up for her perceived mediocrity and prevent him from dropping her for a more attractive girl, she has to continuously make more of an effort doing things for him, etc. There are also intermediate options, it is not binary. In general, the option with deep insecurities allows an extra layer of psychological humiliation and manipulation but it also requires that we are synchronized regarding what are the ideals for her body. I was a teen in the early 2000s in a white country and I use the body ideals from back then. My experience is that in the last decade, young people have a very, very different idea of body ideals for women that does not quite fit with mine.]]
### First time at his place
Her parents had died in a car accident a few years ago and she lived now with a couple of female roomies. He lived alone so his place was the default place to go. He invited her to his place for the third date, and he did not prepare any food, but he sent her some money with a mobile app and told her to buy something on her way to his place and cook it for him. She obliged without any objection, wanting to show that she was a proper woman. She dressed up pretty but not slutty, and she cooked for him while he sat on the sofa and they talked. He talked about politics (he was obviously conservative), his hobbies (and she showed interest even if they were not her own hobbies), and he manspained things he cared about while she listened attentively and she thought he was very smart. She mentioned her hobbies, which besides the obvious stuff like listening to music and seeing series and movies, were reading (mostly romance and vampire YA fiction), drawing, and playing music (piano and oboe). She had also done some dancing. He asked some details but 80% of the conversation was about what he liked. She served the food, he was mildly appreciative of it but pointed out some issues, and she apologized admitting that she was only partially experienced cooking but that she should definitely learn more. After they finished, she cleaned up while they continued talking. They saw another movie that he liked or engaged into some hobby of his.
Since she was a shy girl and clearly a virgin, he did not push for sex in the next 4 dates, and he just enjoyed the food, the pleasant conversation and the activities he chose, to which she would try to adapt the best she could. Before each date he texted her what he would like to eat so she could research the recipe and buy the ingredients. She would have her own opinions but she would only give them when asked and if she felt like some part of them were at odds with his, she would usually preface her opinions as “possibly wrong”, besides phrasing them in a way that tried to minimize the differences with his. The more adamantly he insisted on a view or preference, the more steps she would take to try to morph hers into something closer to his.
### First sex
Before the 6th date, he texted her that he appreciated that she was not a slut but that now that they knew each other better, she should try to dress more sexy. That implied that the time for her to surrender her body to him was probably coming, and that she should be prepared. In earlier conversations, he had expressed his preference for women being dolled up, wearing pretty lingerie, classy makeup, carefully done hair, fully waxed, etc. so she knew what she had to do. He had also expressed his dislike for condoms so she knew she would have to use the pill. Despite her shyness she did her best and she dressed very sexy. The date went on as usual but after dinner he casually told her to go to his bedroom. She was nervous but she complied. He sat on an armchair and he told her to dance a bit for him while she slowly took off her clothes. Despite her nervousness, she complied. After that, sex was just for his satisfaction. There was no foreplay for her, he just did his business at the speed that suited him, not caring about whether it hurt her, and once he unloaded he just lied on the bed and told her to bring him something to drink. He also let her know that she should put in an IUD from now on.
She did not complain about anything, but still, he made clear that his view of sex was that it is pleasurable only for men. He complained about too much porn being focused on women having fun and cumming, and that men who liked that were being manipulated through their fragile egos into being slaves even if they acted cocky and claimed to be dominant. He said good gf-material women were not slutty but chaste, and accepted sex as an activity focused on pleasing the man, not themselves. He used some evo psych to back his opinions, which sounded so scientific to her and impossible to refute from her silly woman point of view. He expressed his disgust for egoistic women, especially for a long term relationship. He said he actually disliked women feeling any pleasure during sex because it would take their attention away from what should be the main task: physically pleasing the man. She nodded as these statements sank in her head. She had always thought a bit like that but he made it more explicit and clear to her. She had never masturbated often, rather fantasizing about meeting the right man, and the few times she masturbated she felt guilty and dirty for it. His philosophy made sense to her. She wanted to prove it and show him that she was not an egoistic self-centered woman, but proper girlfriend material, perhaps even wife material.
### Next dates, escalating roughness
The next dates went similarly. He became even rougher at sex and after a few more dates he started slapping her hard during sex, first in the ass, and another in a later date he slapped her in the face. With the face slaps she was scared even if she didn’t dare to complain very loudly. Unapologetically, he explained that the case for pain was like for pleasure but inverted. Men -at least masculine men- saw as a positive trait in women that they could take pain. It meant that they were well prepared for childbirth. And very importantly, it proved her devotion, her willingness to take anything to please him, even if it hurt or it was uncomfortable. It was for her to swallow but at the same time it made sense to her and she really wanted to prove all these things to him so he would love her back, so she accepted nervously.
Since that, his roughness progressively increased, date after date. Harder and harder slaps in the face, choking while sex, pulling her hair, slapping her breasts hard, caning her ass, nipple clamps… Sometimes she cried but she muffled her own sobbing, trying not to disturb him.
He didn’t mind her sobbing but he also wanted her to make an effort to look pleasant, so he made explicit that even if she is suffering, she should never look sour, and she should even make an effort to keep a pleasant smile. Not a smile of true happiness but one that is just pleasing to the eye of the observer, like that stewardesses and promotional models are instructed to display regardless of their inner feelings.
At some point he also explained that a lot of women mistakenly understood being submissive as being passive, but that it meant the opposite, as she should always be active in the pursuit of making him happy. That applied both in sex and in general. Within sex, it meant that his favorite position was often letting her ride him while he just relaxed or he slapped his face and breasts. He also told her to start doing kegel exercises and do workouts focused on core and lower legs, so she could improve her skills at “pussywanking”, as he called it.
Of course, he also liked receiving oral sex, while he claimed that the only way he would enjoy seeing a woman licked would be as part of a girl-on-girl scene (not real lesbian sex but rather porn made for guys). He bought her a dildo the size of his cock, not for her pussy but for her to train and improve her skills giving head, including learning to deepthroat.
He also enjoyed oral sex as a warm-up for his cock, but he also made her do it after regular sex to leave his cock cleaner.
At some point she mentioned that she hoped to save money to study something, but he laughed and he made clear that if they were together that was his choice, and that she didn’t need to study because she had to focus 100% on him and their relationship.
### Moving in
Every time she visited his place, besides cooking and cleaning the kitchen, and doing the activities that he wanted, she ended up cleaning the house a bit, in order to earn girlfriend points. Sometimes he only had to remark that something was dirty for her to understand the message. At the end of November, he told her that it was about time to move in with him. It was never really a choice for her, she felt that there was only one possible answer: a positive one with a smile and thanking him, and she would have to do it under his conditions.
The day she arrived with her luggage, he gave her a long lecture making more clear the rules for living together. He would stop having to pay a maid as he had been doing so far, and as a girlfriend she would be expected to keep the house perfect, doing much more than what the maid had done so far. She would clean on a daily basis but without disturbing him, she would do the washing, she would iron his clothes, and she would take care of any other household task that he wanted done. She would usually have to do the shopping too, keeping track of what was needed, but the shopping list would be shared with him so he could drop anything he wanted to be bought. She would have to leave her part-time job so she could dedicate herself 100% to him, to the house and to her own beauty. But in return for living under his roof, he would demand to receive as deposit her entire savings ($5k). From that point, she would only have the money that he would give her on a weekly basis for shopping, and she would have to keep all the receipts so he could check that things add up if he desired, and that there were no unapproved spendings. He would make clear that the only things that she was allowed to buy for herself were articles related to beauty and fitness in order to look good for him, and always following his tastes and budget restrictions.
She would have to homecook everything, and when he wanted something unhealthy like burgers or baking, she would do it for him but she would parallelly do something with low calories for herself. He would make clear that she would have to follow a strict diet and the only exceptions would be granted by him. He would also give her a list of intensive workouts that she would have to do a few times a week to keep a good body for him. [[The frequency and intensity depends on how fit you want her to look, I am fine in a range from 3 to 30 hours a week, less than that would be too little and more it would make her look too masculine]]
He also made clear that besides doing all the housework, she would have to look good while she did it. She would have to be dolled-up at all times, both when they go out and when she is at home. He wouldn’t like cake-face makeup but feminine and classy. When at home, he would want her to wear party dresses or just lingerie sets matching tones with make-up and nail polish. Panty hoses would be completely dropped in favor of more complicated but aesthetically more pleasing garter belts and stockings with back seam. She would be expected to wear high heels whenever she went out and sometimes at home too.
She would have to wake up one hour before him, get a shower, doll up and get completely ready, and make his breakfast, so when he got up his breakfast would be ready and she would already be looking her best.
After they moved in, he also started controlling her attire when they went out. For going shopping alone, he would expect her to go feminine but very conservatively. When going out together, depending on the context he would like her to dress in different ways.
For more formal situations, he would want her to wear a pencil or trumpet skirt and a buttoned-up blouse with darts in the waist, or a dress with a similar feel, so not a lot of skin was exposed but the body-hugging feel would be sexy in a formal way.
For more informal situations, the skirt would be shorter and more cleavage would be exposed.
### Further scenes
I make a more brief account of later scenes.
One possible scene to play would be when he introduces her to his friends (he would make her cut contact with most of her own friends). He could have a small clique of male friends that are like him, and he would enjoy showing off “his bitch”, namely how much of a doormat she is, and how much shit she will take from him. He could make her dress up revealingly in a way that embarrasses her, insult her in front of them while she has to take it and be nice in return, make comments about how she performs sexually, etc. If he invites them home, he would make clear to her beforehand how important it is that she is a perfect hostess, everything is spotlessly clean for him and his friends, she has to serve them food and drinks while they watch TV, sports or play video games, etc.
There could also be a scene where he escalates her humiliation in front of his friends, for instance forcing her to become topless in front of them. I am not much into the idea of him sharing her with friends; no matter how some people want to differentiate between hotwifing and cuckolding, it still feels against the values of a very sexist guy who would see her “holes” as his property. However, I am fine with him **showing her off** (candaulism) or even letting a good close friend or brother slap her ass or grope her breasts, but I prefer him to draw a sharp line at the genitals.
Another possible scene is when he introduces her to his family. The details depend on how you want his family to be, but I envision everything a bit more subtle than with the friends. But overall he would want the same: show off that he has a completely submissive “bitch”.
Despite being more nuanced, there could be a situation where her body is more exposed in front of his family. A possible situation is a trip to the beach or swimming pool where he makes her go topless (some Americans feel like this is weird but perhaps because I am from Europe, I see it only as somewhat taboo but not impossible).
At some point he can find a way to make money off her while he is her only boss. He may make her become a lifestyle youtuber. Not a camgirl (I am not much into direct porn), but dressing up very feminine, sometimes straight up sexy, and talk about her lifestyle as submissive “traditional” girlfriend while showing enthusiasm and a big smile, presenting everything as tips for other women. This would of course attract a lot of followers (mostly men but maybe some women too), which would mean an advertising income for him. It could also spark controversy, and he could make her reply to angry feminists with even more blatantly sexist replies to make her go viral and reap even more advertising money. Some scenes could be related to this topic.
Another possible theme is cuckqueaning. He may say that he wants to do a FFM threesome, using again evo psych arguments to back it as his natural right, claiming that she is not enough and hinting that if she does not accept he may have to look elsewhere, etc. She would be absolutely not thrilled with the idea, not only because she is straight but because of jealousy. However, she would feel pressured to accept to make him happy. He may propose doing it with a random girl, or a friend of his, or an acquaintance of hers that he finds hot but she actually dislikes. The threesome could end up being more about him fucking the other girl while Sophie has to perform an assistance role while another girl fucks his boyfriend. He may require Sophie to lick the other girl before or after the sex while the other girl would not want to lick her. The other girl can stay overnight and take her spot in the bed, use her face towel to wipe her pussy or ass, and other similar things with humiliating symbolism.
After the first threesome, he may turn it into a routine, fucking a new girl from time to time, or even taking a regular mistress she would have to compete with.
At some point in 2018 he can make her pregnant if you like this theme.
Another possible later scene is a wedding. Normally, this is seen as something advantageous for the woman, but he could do it in a way that completely shields him (aggressive pre-nup). This kind of scene is mostly if you enjoy the idea of her dressing up in a bridal gown that is a bit too uncomfortable, and old-fashioned bridal public symbolism that emphasizes the bride as property of the man. It could also be combined with cuckqueaning if he decided to fuck the bridesmaid in the wedding night, or demand a FFM threesome with her.
I am 18+ and all participants and characters must be 18+.
Source: reddit.com/r/Erotica/comments/gduyvv/submissive_girlfriend_for_a_sexist_abusive_guy_mf