So occasionally I write out fantasies or filthy stories from my past and share them on Reddit. As a woman, I am unsurprised that this attracts a fair bit of interest and maybe too many unsolicited DMs, but it is fair to say that I enjoy my stories being appreciated!
A few people have asked me about myself and why I do this. The smart arse answer is “I wish I knew!” But I’ve been thinking about it recently.
First, I’m happily married, 45 and not looking for anyone else, for sexting or other purposes. People ask what I look like: I am told I have a pretty face and a cheeky grin, I was prettier and slimmer when I was younger but think I still look ok. Dark hair and eyes, I’m short with big boobs and short legs, I guess the term is curvy. I don’t think I am in BBW territory (UK size 12/14). I have sex pretty regularly with my husband and it’s good. All of this stuff is just for me. He doesn’t know I post here, he does know I write and I have written some pretty explicit stuff just for him (and used other media too!).
Some people ask if I get turned on writing the stories. Of course I do. They’re mainly fantasies so obviously writing them out arouses me. Do I masturbate to them? Again, I think that is pretty obvious. I have to be turned on enough to write them and I try hard to imagine my own feelings in detail when doing so; of course this means I need to come, I’m only human!!
I love feedback. I can’t really explain it, but I get a huge buzz when someone tells me my story aroused them. Not just that thrill
of accomplishment, an actual sexual buzz that my writing turned another person on and that they may even have cum reading my words.
I generally browse NSFW Reddit when I am bored and horny; like everyone else I find talking about sex interesting and at times arousing. But like I say, I don’t come here to sext. I have in the past a couple of times, but it feels wrong given my marital status.
My fantasies are not especially wild or unusual; like I say I put lots of effort into imagining how a given situation would feel and this means I put quite a lot of myself into a story, which can feel a little vulnerable at times.
I often use quite base language which others might find crude, like the c word (I dislike “pussy” personally); I know some people don’t like that but for me it is both liberating and a turn on to use crude language.
Finally – biggest confession maybe – I should be working right now but I’ve got lost in thinking about this stuff, why I do it and how happy I am that some people enjoy it. I ought to get back to it. Work, I mean!
Source: reddit.com/r/Erotica/comments/z7rytu/confessions_of_an_erotica_writer
What a very thoughtful and honest post.
Are you me?! I can’t resonate with this post enough. What a lovely honest post ❤️
Thanks v much. Am I you? …I will have to check you out (as it were!)❤️❤️
I have been posting erotica for a little while and I sometimes think about why I am doing it, too. I think it just uses a totally different part of my brain then my day job, which is not writing. I try to get into writing the story, developing the characters. And, like you, I really like the feedback. Sometimes if i get busy and I don’t post an update to an ongoing series for awhile, I get people asking me when I am going to do it, which is fun. I have had some people tell me they read every one. I am male though, so I am lucky all of the DMs I have received have been just questions about the series.
Woah! First of all, I am in awe of the sheer transparency that you have shown in this post. And obviously it made me look up your work and damn you’re gifted. Your writing is so fluid. Love it all ❤️ Please keep writing.. Its clear in your work how much you enjoy it and I’m so happy that I came across this amazing post today.
Lisa, I too have no idea why I write erotica. It’s cathartic, keeps my demons at bay and gives me impetus to try my fantasies out on lovers.
Great to hear some personal motivation from the author well done
Quite refreshing to have your point of view. I found it quite liberating, thoughtful, honest and to the point!!!
I am new here, how do I look up and find your work. Definitely interested as I love reading…
As with your writing, I appreciate the honesty and viscerality!
I also have to be turned on to write erotica. I don’t seem to quite hit the right notes otherwise, plus I don’t feel like doing it. I get how you feel that you are putting yourself out there and it is vulnerable. Ultimately we are hoping readers will be aroused by our words, in that sense it an feel like every word matters and a mis -step is easy. You’re essentially wanting the reader to share your dirty predilections and they won’t always. In that sense, do you just go for mainstream stuff and count up the hits like a musician selling out for the charts, or try to be true to what you yourself find hot? I find the latter always works best but it is not without putting your fantasies and your choice of words out there for people to like or not.
It is an added bonus to read that you masturbate to your stories though!
Wonderful to hear more about you (sorry for the unsolicited DM!! I can explain I can expiaaaaaaaannnnnnn)
Your work is very sexy, very arrousin. I have read and reread ( and thought about your stories as I have sex!)
Thank you for opening up and sharing your story and these fantasies. I really appreciate getting to know a bit about how people tick. I write from time to time and really enjoy a story that creates the need to ‘release’ the pent up desire. Please keep writing and know it is enjoyed by many.
I love to write also. I loved your post, it’s honesty, clarity and you’ve conveyed the sense of joy and fun you have writing. And I love that. I write every day and post in my own sub but I should consider branching out with my writing, erotica and thinly disguised true stories. Thank you.
!updateme
Followed you so I can check back for your stories!
A very thoughtful and well written post, a tad sad on behalf of my thirsty male counter parts that it has to be said about unsolicited dms. Some of us need to learn decorum (sadly) when it comes to the fairer sex!
As someone who enjoys erotica I will definitely have to have a read of some of what you have written!
There honestly isn’t much better than reading a well thought out, well written erotica story be it false or true! Thank you in advance for the effort you have put into writing them!
Good evening
I would very much like to thank you for the “Confessions of an Erotic Writer”.
What you have written, is something that is deep within the heart of all authors of erotica.
Whether we are relating true tales from our life, and history, or crafting a projection from within, we strive to hear our voices being heard.
I sometimes wrote erotica for black bisexual men so I totally understand
Do you make money writing erotica?
Hi, it is the first time I have come across your posts and, like you, I read NSFW Reddits often so it is great to read this first before going to read your other stories. Love how you express your self and even this “confession” was somehow erotic… well done. You sound like a fun person that I could be friends with, but don’t worry I live very far from you so I am not trying to solicit a meeting!! Shit! I’m also at work so I better get going. Looking forward to reading your stories… will be following you