I’ve decided, I prefer NOT to cum 🤷🏽‍♂️

I’ve been married to my beautiful wife for 13 years now, and we’ve had our ups and downs in every aspect of our lives including the bedroom. But the great thing is, we’ve continued to grow and evolve and learn about how to please each other and what we need for ourselves.

One of the issues we had from the beginning was dealing with my size as I’m quite large, and she’s quite small down there. With a lot of patience and love we’ve discovered what worked for us.

However a couple of key things changed in that I now practice semen retention and have done so for the last couple of years (game changer in so many areas of my life, not just the bedroom), and we’ve stumbled upon the joys of deliberate and purposeful foreplay.

First discovered it’s use when I started using a vibrating cock ring to help her with my thickness and it really did help bring more pleasure for her.

My wife was a virgin when we married while I was more experienced, she would have a tendency to let’s start the sex and not be too Interested in foreplay so I had to take control of that and lay her down one time and tell her that daddy is in control today and you’re not getting any dick until I’m ready, so just lay there and enjoy this.

I used the vibrating cock ring on her for a good 5+ mins and she was lost in a world of pleasure and by that time actually grabbed my cock and demanded I give it to her.

So then that got me started on the journey of getting some dedicated foreplay toys. Today I jumped in and bought a womanizer Starlet, and I’ll be using it on her tonight.

We went shopping and I bought her a whole heaps of clothes she wanted today and we got home she gave me some beautiful head.

I was laying there watching her in awe with my big cock in her mouth, thinking about how much I love her. Thinking about how much I just want to please her, in every area of my life. Including the bedroom.

She’s not once managed to make me cum from giving me head, one because I’m quite thick and she has to stop after about 40 seconds because her jaw gets sore. And two, because I honestly prefer to last and enjoy it, over a 5 second orgasm and the post but clarity that accompanies a male ejaculation.

That head she gave me made me realise that maintaining my “erection” for my wife in all areas of life is what I want out of life itself.

Long story short, making her feel good. Makes me feel even better.

Source: reddit.com/r/Erotica/comments/ujl69u/ive_decided_i_prefer_not_to_cum