Your sub, treat them properly

THE SUB

One afternoon I was searching through the BDSM section of Reddit posts.

I chanced upon a girl with many questions about her present relationship and issues she was having with her Dom.

It’s not often when I would respond to a post.

Yet something in her words struck a chord within my heart.

Her so called Dom was pressing her into doing things that would have been detrimental to her ability to trust people in the future.

What ensued was a long series of conversations around her and my past and present relationships.

She was quite unhappy with the way things were going with her Dom and was trying to find a way out of her predicament.

Her needs were not being met by him and it appears that he had no clue that his attempt at being a Dom were in no way helpful to her growth and well being.

Even though there is a vast difference in our ages (I being the older of us.) I began to feel for her plight.

We have all been there, in relationships that don’t work, yet we feel reluctant to leave.

In time she gained the courage to leave her Dom and begin the slow process of healing.

I have been honored to support her in this time of her need and find myself looking forward to our chats.

Any Dom worth his salt will understand the the role of a Dom is not solely sexual gratification.

Rather the proper role of a Dom is to facilitate the growth of his sub into a well rounded and self assured individual.

In a well developed BDSM relationship there must come a time when his or her sub will grow beyond the need for his or her Dom.

When a sub has grown into that well rounded and self assured individual, it is time for the Dom to let his/her sub go.

This does not necessarily mean breaking off the relationship, it just means that the dynamics of the relationship and the individual has changed.

The needs that they came to you with have either been met or have changed as they grew while in a nurturing environment.

Some continue their relationship but with an eye towards a modified BDSM dynamic.

Some will send their sub off to a brighter future, once they have found themselves.

The last sub I had a relationship with found a person who gave her a healthy sense of self and nurtured her and their relationship.

A year later I received an invitation to her wedding.

When I arrived the night before the wedding, I was greeted by her and her fiance with a warm hug from the both of them.

That evening I had a private dinner with the two of them.

Her fiance was aware of her past relationship with me.

While we ate he explained to me that he and his bride to be “Put their cards on the table”.

Telling each other of their past lives and loves.

At first he was appalled by her history, yet as they grew together he discovered how her relationship with me had in a sense saved her life.

At the end of the meal he took my hand and thanked me for making her the girl he loved.

It’s been three years since they have tied the knot.

In that time they have together explored the world of BDSM.

The moral of this story is this;

During play you may call her/him your property.

However she/he is not.

They are your charge, your student and you are their mentor.

NEVER abuse the trust they have gifted you !!

   

Source: reddit.com/r/Erotica/comments/gwloh6/your_sub_treat_them_properly