Move with intention. Dont be shy, but don’t be too aggressive (unless the mood fits it).
Kiss me lightly, use your lips as softly as you can at first. No need to mash your lips into mine, I feel them more when its light. Kiss both my lips, upper, and then lower. Move from my lips to my neck, still softly, maybe sometimes just running your lips over my skin. You can lightly nibble me if you’d like. The surprise of the contrast between a light touch and a small bite can be surprisingly hot.
Use only your fingertips. Barely touch me at first and never use the palm of your hand–run your fingertips from my neck down my body, just a light touch–sneak up my shirt and peel it off. Tease my waistband. Run your fingers down my breasts, sides, stomach, butt, legs, inner thighs. Whether you are on top of me or coming at me from the side, build up an anticipation while you kiss me. No urgency–we usually have no where to be.
When you can feel me relax, my legs open for you, run your fingers up my thighs, my sides, gently work your way closer. Maybe kiss up/down my body, still keeping your lips soft and slowly moving down. Dont ignore my inner thighs and stomach especially just above where my waistband sits, they are very erogenous and sensitive. Dont make it a chore, enjoy touching me. Show me that you enjoy touching me and enjoy the process–that you love my body and WANT me. When you are kissing my neck, if you have one, rub your erection between my legs or against my butt if we are spooning to show me that you want me, too. I absolutely die for this.
Tease my skin until you get closer, and when you decide to, gently run your fingertips over my panties, just barely touching. I can still feel it, and I’ll probably already be wet if I’m not being difficult. Never rush unless we need to because it will make it so much better for both of us.
Keep slowly working outside of my panties, hands or mouth whichever you choose, but be gentle. You can build up some pressure, but go slow if you do. Use both your hands, keep them moving on my body. Maybe squeeze my thighs or my butt. Occasionally slip underneath whatever I’m wearing, tease my lips lightly. This is a good time if you want to use the vibrator, but remember to start light and dont press hard.
When you can feel how desperately wet I am, then take off my panties and work the wetness. Move from the opening to the clit and slowly work the clit in circles, side to side or up and down but build a rhythm. Now you can slip your fingers in, maybe just holding them there or slowly moving in and then out fully. Let them wander. Back to in and out, until I’m practically begging for it. enter me with your fingers and move in sync with my clit. If you choose to come back up and kiss me while doing this, feel free to talk dirty in my ear–I may not be good with dirty talk in bed..I have a difficult time verbalizing. but I really enjoy hearing it from you–what you want to do to me, what you want me to do to you. If for whatever reason I am not wet yet, entering your fingers might help release my juices but do this slowly and if theres nothing inside and if I am not wet after THIS, chances are im going to flip you over and start working on you because my body is having difficulty. It is very possible from time to time for my mind to be turned on but my body not respond.
Whatever rhythm you choose,
Dont stray from it, but build it up by increasing speed and pressure incrementally. You’ll probably feel my body rocking with it, and you’ll know when to build up faster. If you are using your tongue, dont press hard, dont use the tip of your tongue, and never flick my clit. Softness is your goal. Keep your chin toward your chest so I never never EVER feel your chin scrape against me. I know you want to watch, and that is okay, but you need to be mindful that your chin hair is extremely coarse and even the slightest scrape makes me curl in pain.
Read my body. I’ll likely be responding in rhythm and completely unable to be quiet any longer. Remember to still run your fingertips over me. The feeling of you in me while also all over me peaks all my senses and is absolutely overwhelming pleasure. You’ll be able to tell how much I want you to fuck me. If we cant have sex, you can always use the dildo for me instead of your fingers and I WILL come if you work with the rhythm I need. The key is to build me up with so much anticipation that I dont have a choice but to release it.
Think about when I’m riding you, grinding on you and the consistency I always use to push myself over the edge. I cant always come, and that’s okay! I’ll know if I’m not going to be able, and I guarantee you if you were to work me like this, the favor will be returned regardless of if I do or not. I dont always have to finish and sometimes, it’s actually a good thing, because holy fuck. Next time I will be absolutely ready for you. Sex doesnt have to always mean only penetration. It also doesnt always have to be this slow. Sometimes a good kitchen counter fuck is just what we need. But if you tease me like this, I will be absolutely begging for it with urgency by the end.
Source: reddit.com/r/sexystories/comments/allk4f/mf_i_was_having_trouble_verbalizing_what_i_wanted
I didn’t know I needed this guide in my life, but I struggle with verbalising in the moment, too, and this is everything I could’ve asked for.
Thank you for sharing. This is a great manual.
This seems amazing to me. I’ll try to read through this a few times and maybe use it on someone someday :P
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Thank you.